Let Go of These 9 Limiting Mindsets In Your 20s To Live 100x Better In Your 30s

I polled my 500+ Millenial followers on Instagram, here are the limiting mindsets you need to let go of.

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Your mindset is the greatest predictor of your success.

Like a virus, how you think infects every part of your life. Your career, relationships, and most importantly, how you make decisions.

I took an Instagram poll of the biggest mindset shifts that people made in their 20s.

See below:

I had lots of responses and messages from people who are currently in their 20s or have just entered the new decade of their 30s.

Here are the results:

#1: “I should have started doing this 5 years ago. What’s the point of starting now?”

Yes, that’s true. But you didn’t.

Stop crying over spilled milk.

The best time to start writing online was 10 years ago.

The next best time? Today.

As Robin Sharma once said, “action delayed is greatness betrayed.”

#2: “I don’t have the qualifications or experience to start a business.”

The best entrepreneurs in the world are neither degreed nor decreed.

Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates were college dropouts.

As a generation, we live in the permissionless creator economy.

There are no gatekeepers and even fewer barriers to entry.

Start that blog or Youtube Channel you’ve always wanted to.

The education system has brainwashed you into thinking that studying for 3+ years and getting into $100k of debt to be ‘qualified enough’ is normal.

You can learn any skill online, mostly for free.

#3: Understand that most decisions are reversible.

There are less than a handful of life decisions that are truly irreversible without dire consequences.

These are:

Getting addicted to drugs or gambling.
Having a child.
Going to prison.

Everything else is more or less reversible. Even marriage.

Spend less time worrying about small decisions and focus on the big rocks in your life.

#4: “I am scared of what others will think of me.”

People are going to dislike you regardless of what you do.

You might as well have people dislike you for the values you care about.

You might be disliked, but you won’t have any regrets later in life.

#5: “I’ve been in this relationship or friendship for so long.”

The length of a relationship doesn’t determine its quality.

Some people will be in your life for a season, a reason or to teach you a valuable lesson.

And that’s okay. Every type of relationship has its place in your life. Not everyone will stick around for your entire journey.

Don’t be afraid to outgrow people. Don’t be afraid to leave people behind.

Learn to let go or be dragged.

#6: “I am scared of failure or looking stupid”

You’re allowed to be scared.

You’re allowed to be fearful.

You are allowed to feel anything.

But you’re NOT allowed to be stagnant.

Indecision is worse than failure. Inaction is worst than making mistakes.

And waiting to ‘be ready’ will never happen.

#7: “This person is doing better than me.”

Comparison with others makes you bitter.

Comparison with yourself makes you better.

Become better, not bitter.

#8 “I feel like I will never be successful.”

There are multiple definitions of success.

The biggest mistake is borrowing someone’s definition and thinking it will make you happy.

Some people will play the career game or the status game. Others will play the family and friends game.

Know which games you want to play and what sacrifices have to be made to win the game.

You can choose to change what game you play at any age, and at any stage of life. Success is flexible and so should your approach.

#9: “Making money online is a scam”

Despite being digital natives, many of my friends don’t believe making money online is possible.

Or if they do, they assume they are being scammed or scamming someone else.

I will never understand this mindset.

For me, the internet is an escape hatch from the mainstream 9–5 dread and a hedge against being canceled.

Justin Welsh said it best:

What does this mean for you?

Turn your mindset into an asset, not a liability.

The altitude you reach in life depends on the attitude you have for life.

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